There is a question that has stayed with me for quite some time. Why do so many of us wait until we're completely overwhelmed before we begin caring for ourselves? It isn't because we don't know that rest is important. We understand the value of sleep, healthy relationships, movement, time in nature, and moments of stillness. We encourage the people we love to slow down when they need to, and we often recognize the signs of exhaustion in others long before they recognize them

There is a question that quietly finds its way into many of our lives. It rarely arrives all at once. More often, it slips into ordinary moments—after a difficult conversation, while driving home at the end of a long day, or in the silence before falling asleep. It is a question so familiar that we hardly notice ourselves asking it anymore. "What's wrong with me?" For many of us, this question has become almost instinctive. When we struggle, we assume there must be something

Manami Yamamoto, LMFT, provides nurturing true wellness through holistic psychotherapy in California.